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Who Do You Tell?
Author(s):
Vorsuc

HOW DO YOU TELL THEM YOU'RE A VAMPIRE?
WHEN DO YOU TELL THEM?
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU CAN TRUST?

You don't. And the majority of the older vamps who've been dealing with it for decades, will tell you the same.

For a lot of the younger vamps that is pretty hard to accept. Most tend to eb at the time of rebellion where they hold a noble notion that the world should be fine with their expressionism and their individuality. Vampirism, is just a part of that, and to them the world should accept that too.

We live in a world where the colour of your skin or your sexuality can get you horrifically beaten or killed. The idea that you are going to be able to tell people you are a vampire freely is a pipe dream I'm afraid.

So, who to trust. Well no-one can answer this for you, but in your case I'd be VERY reluctant of telling ANYONE. Word could easily get back to your parents and that's the last thing you want.

Look to the future too, the people you are friends with or dating now, might not be the same people in your life in 5, 10, 15 or even 30 years from now. Do you want them to come back at you with "they think they are a vampire.. AHAHAHAH" in later life?

Whoever you tell, no matter how much they love you now, could easily become an enemy in later life, or someone jealous who'd love to take a cheap shot at you. It is a very cynical view, I know, but one you should definately bare in mind.

I, personally, have been very lucky in how those around me have dealt with me. When a rumour was spread around my friends that one of us believed they were a vampire, there was a wave of panic and fear. One of my close friends took it upon himself, without my knowledge to explain to them exactly what that meant, that no-one was going to bite their neck and suck their blood and that whoever it was, would be going through a rough time and ideally needed support not hysteria. One girl remained unconvinced though. We'd have regular parties and sleep over at each other's houses. She always slept with her duvet tightly wrapped, covering her neck.


Only [very few] of my friends have met my parents, and they don't know.


At the moment. Who's to say they won't come around to your house one day, and let it slip, or they tell someone else, who tells someone else, who tells someone else.. etc.

I know it seems higly paranoid, but then you have to be, especially in an unsupportive environment. My parents have been very loving and supportive of all my life decisions, but even then I have never uttered a word of this side of me to them, I just really don't think it matters.


The only other person who knows is my [boyfriend/girlfriend] and from the way they talk this is going to be a long-term relationship anyway...


[They] will always talk like that ;)

Seriously though, you can't bet on maybe's and possibles. Talk to anyone you like and they'll all tell you they met someone they thought was "the one", hell I've had umpteen girls who, at the time, I figured I'd be sending the rest of my life with. But then you turn a corner and unexpectedly, it all turns to shit. I'm not saying this to sound older, wiser and like I know more, but honestly we ALL go through this. Best advice, is that until your have a wedding ring on your finger and two kids together, don't say a word.. and even then, approach the subject carefully.

You have NOTHING to loose by being TOO cautious.

You have EVERYTHING to loose by being reckless.

"I am a vampire" are not words you can take back.

Ever.

SOME FINAL ADVICE

Having been through some real shit since becoming involved in the community, I can offer this bit of advice from experience...

Be cautious. Just because someone tells you *they* think you're a vampire (or whatever), and you feel "different", doesn't mean you have to accept it as the gospel. You don't have to feel like you're in a rush to find the answers and you don't have to feel panicked because someone tells you something that may or may not actually be the case.

Remember that the only one who can decide what's right for you, is you. Please don't let feeling vulnerable or unsteady cause you to jump into a situation where you might be manipulated or worse; take the time you need to consider what's happening to you and around you and decide for yourself what's the best thing to do.

 

Vorsuc is a UK vampire currently working on Further Down the Rabbit Hole, a vampire community designed to promote the normal, everyday side to real vampirism.


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