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The term donor is used to describe someone who provides blood (or pranic energy)
on their own free will without being coerced. It is important that donors recognize
any situations that may place them in danger or threaten their health.
A donor's ability to exercise good judgment and common sense is essential when
considering whether or not to donate. New donors should familiarize themselves
with how to spot a blood drinker(or energy feeder) who could potentially cause
them emotional or physical harm. When thinking about whether or not to donate,
please keep the following points in mind.
Do not allow anyone to make you feel obligated to be a donor. If someone
tries to pressure you it is doubtful that they will ever care about your well
being.
Ensure that the blood drinker practices safe procedures when withdrawing
blood. Anything used should be sterilized and the area where the cut is made
should be wiped with alcohol.
Communication should be encouraged and any concerns the donor has should
be discussed prior to a donation taking place. A blood drinker who refuses
to discuss the issues openly is not worth the donor's time.
Recognize and accept the possibility that a bond of friendship(or more) may
develop as a result of the donor-vampiric association. It is a good idea to
discuss what the expectations are so that no one ends up with hurt feelings.
Stating the terms beforehand does not guarantee that no one will be emotionally
hurt, but being prepared can help. Sometimes the donor-vampiric relationship
can lead to romantic feelings, and these feelings are not always mutual. It
is important to makes the terms very clear so as not to send the wrong message
or create unrealistic expectations. Some vampiric individuals cannot help but
get attached, and others remain detached. Others still maintain a middle ground.
Whatever the case, always keep the lines of communication open to avoid painful
misunderstandings.
There are several myths and legends regarding vampires. Hollywood plays on
these myths and legends, and often cashes in on them. Vampirism is often surrounded
with fantasy for the purposes of entertainment. Unfortunately there are those
who take the fantasy too far. More often than not, these individuals are harmless
but it is integral that a donor watch the blood drinker (or energy feeder) for
any signs that he or she may be "lost in la la land".
SIGNS THAT SOMEONE MAY BE LOST IN "LA LA LAND"
They say things like, "I have lived in the darkness for 500 years."
And, "I cannot go out into the sun, it would destroy me."
They make references about themselves that sound suspiciously like Vampire
the Masquerade or some other role playing game.
They think they are immortal and claim they are immune to diseases.
They claim they can drain someone completely of blood, or boast about consuming
large amounts of blood. Humans can only handle so much blood. In fact, most
vampires only ingest and teaspoon or two at a time. On a side note, psi vampires
can rarely, if ever, cause death by draining someone of their energy.
They cannot function properly in their day to day lives because of something
that happened 800 years ago in a past life or because of some astral disaster.
i.e., "An astral dragon attacked me on the way to the store this afternoon".
Or if the person is so totally focused on what happens in astral or other
realms, they confuse it with their present reality. This is not to say that
the astral does not exist, but as in most things, a balance is important.
The key to trying to measure someone's "sanity" is to determine
if things like astral or metaphysical matters are interfering with their ability
to take care of things in everyday life. (Work, school, family, friends, etc.)
If they sound like they have delusions of grandeur such as supposing themselves
to be superior to "those humans", it is cause for serious concern.
If they make references to their "victims" and to killing people for
blood, then stay clear of them. They have serious mental illness issues that
you may not be equipped to deal with. While it is true that people who get carried
away with fantasies are often relatively harmless, there is also the possibility
their delusions may lead them to harm others. Better safe than sorry is a good
motto.
Sometimes donors are faced with wanting to find someone to donate to, but not
really knowing where to start. The Internet is the most obvious choice because
it enables people to connect regardless of locale or other obstacles. However,
anyone considering meeting someone from the Internet should exercise EXTREME
CAUTION. Sometimes gothic or fetish events are the ideal place to meet a blood
drinker. This is not because all of them like blood. In these subcultures, it
is often easier to bring up the topic of vampirism and it is not considered
taboo. People are more open minded to things that may be considered "weird"
to the mainstream of society. That being said, vampiric individuals come from
all walks of life and a good majority of them do not look like the stereotypical
vampire. Stay alert and learn to recognize opportunities for talking about vampirism.
A safe opportunity may present itself by discussing vampire fiction or movies.
It is not too difficult to get a feel for how the person views vampirism. If
they do not seem interested or if they seem horrified, nothing is really lost
as no one came right out and said anything directly.
It is important for donors to practice good judgment and common sense consistently.
If something does not feel right, leave the situation. Keep in mind that knowledge
is power and stay informed. Never compromise on safety or health issues.
©2002 Ravena Lee
This article is presented as part of an ongoing effort to present other views outside of, as well as within, the online vampire community. Those of us who consider ourselves vampiric don't always look at things from the same viewpoint due to our life experiences. As such, the views and opinions contained in this article are entirely those of the author(s), and may not necessarily be shared by SphynxCatVP. The webmaster is not under obligation to update or otherwise keep current the contents of this article. Most importantly, only you can decide for yourself whether this article or any of the author(s) other views are useful or applicable to you - you are responsible for using your own reasoning and judgement, so judge wisely.
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