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My coming out story is a positive one, and one that may not be easily repeated
by others. However, I'll share and hopefully people will get some kind of value
from it.
This quick background will help set the stage for the story. My parents are
divorced. Both remarried so I effectively have 2 mothers and 2 fathers. My father
is a Freemason, but that's about as spiritual as he gets. My stepmother doesn't
believe in anything and attacked me for even having general Pagan beliefs. My
mother is a psychic (repressed) and a bit of a new-ager. My stepfather is an
Agnostic.
Over the years, my mother has quietly supported my spirituality. She helped
me find books on mysteries and the paranormal at a very young age. She also
helped me with my first speech in grade 8, one on UFOs. After awakening to vampirism
I've slowly dropped hints to her. Talking about energy, psi, empathy and what
vampires are.
A few months ago I finally just came out and said it. "Ummm so mom...I'm
a vampire." She replied with "Do you think I'm an idiot? I've know
that for years now!" Needless to say the coming out wasn't nearly so dramatic
as I thought it would be, nor as problematic.
I drove up to her house a few days later and explained what I am to her in
person, along with my stepfather and my brother. My mother's reaction I've already
stated. My stepfather replied with, "Well, I think you're full of shit,
but I also think all religions and supernatural things are full of shit so it's
nothing personal. As long as you can function in society I don't care what you
call yourself." My brother, who comes from a military background said,
"As long as you're safe, and happy that's all that matters. I'm not sure
what I believe, but in the end that doesn't matter either."
All in all, it was a great experience and a great relief! For others, the advice
I would give would be to take it slow. If you're goth, pagan and a vampire don't
dump it onto your family all at once. Ease into it, let them get use to one
thing at a time. Also, avoid drama. Saying "I suck blood" isn't the
best way to start off a coming out conversation. Stick to those basic ideas
and you'll do ok. It may not be as calm as mine was, however it will hopefully
be more positive than negative. It's also important to know when to come out.
I'm not ready to with regards to my Father and stepmother. In fact I probably
never will. Ultimately you need to decide whether it's worth it, and whether
it actually serves a purpose or not.
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