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ks
Well...
Sat Jun 9 00:04:51 2001
When I took upon my the task of explaining "Psychic Vampire", and
Vampire in general, I found that if I left the label "vampire" out
at first, it helped a lot. Like it has been said, many people discount the term
as popular fiction, and pretty much close their minds to it.
I started out slow with questions like "Have you ever walked into a room
and you can feel the tension so heavy it is like a weight?" (or it could
be anger, or happiness, etc.) You would be surprised how many people know exactly
what that is like. Then I move into things like how certain people are just
draining, or how some things, like concerts where everyone is moving to the
same song, can really be energizing. People understand that, as well. I have
found if you start with things they can logically understand, things that they
know for themselves, it is easier to move on and explain that it isn't just
a once in a while occurrence, but that you are always "on", so to
speak. We aren't really so different, just more sensitive, or perhaps, enhanced.
I think the mistake most of us make is to directly segregate and separates ourselves
from everyone else. In that, you are building walls and obstacles to get around.
If you get them to understand on a level they can accept, the rest will follow.
I don't know all of your own personal experiences, but can only go from my
own. Since I am honest and sincere, people tend to believe me, though they might
think I am rather odd. I agree with them. I have also proven that I am a bit
empathic, and that I tend to know things that are not said. It is acknowledge
by most of the people I know that when I am in a good mood, everyone is in a
good mood and when I am depressed, everyone around me is depressed.
You don't have to tell her you are a "vampire". I don't use that
word anymore. But, if you are going to live with her, and plan to spend a great
deal of time with her, then you are going to have to explain why you are the
way you are. Do it in bits and pieces. Tell her how you feel and what you feel.
Tell her what is in your heart, and in your soul. If she loves you, she will
do her best to understand, if you don't dump a lot of crazy, psychotic sounding
stuff on her all at once. (Even as open minded as I have been with my loved
ones, some things are just hard to take in a lump sum.) If you love her, then
you will be patient and kind and try to understand how she feels. If, in the
end, she rejects you, or it just doesn't work out, then perhaps it is not meant
to be. What good is a relationship if someone has to pretend to be what they
are not, and can't be who they really are? The basis of all good relationships
is honesty and communication. Remember to listen to her, as well.
I don't know if I have helped at all, or just rehashed what everyone else has
said. I do wish you luck.
KS
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